A week doesn't go by when I am asked this question at least twice. It is getting a little old. The question is bad enough but the tone in which it is asked is unsettling. It's like they are saying "Are you done having your vacation and ready to go to work?"
If I had a small child at home no one would give it a second thought and it would be acceptable to be at home. But no, not a 50 year old woman whose youngest child is in school.
As I recall back in the 70's when I was in high school the women's movement was going at full force. I remember everything was about choices. Women should have the right to choose .... (fill in the blank). If a woman wanted to be a lawyer, she should pursue that dream and should also be paid the same as a man. If a woman wanted to start her own business, go for it. Well you get the picture. I remember then that if a woman wanted to stay home and take care of her family it was starting to be frowned on by other women. The difference is that society as a whole still accepted a women's role as homemaker and really expected it also.
I remember the case of a school teacher that was pregnant and forced to quit her job as soon as she started "to show." It's hard to believe that a situation like that ever existed. I don't ever want to go back to that time and the way women were treated. In the early 1980's I had a secretarial job. Every morning the V.P. of the company would ask me "how's your sex life?" To complain would mean being fired and I needed that job. I would just smile and say nothing. Can you imagine if that was done today? I am grateful for the changes in our society and the acceptance that women can work in any career. But does society really believe that? Remember the title of my post?
Fast forward 30 plus years and now it would appear that women my age should be in the work force contributing not just to the family income but more importantly to a retirement fund. I am looked at as an uncontributing member of the family. I don't believe this. My husband doesn't believe this.
Since I have been asked the "So, do you still like being home" question I have also had six women that are my age make the following comment: "I wish I could do what you are doing." They always say this to me in a quiet voice as if someone from some women's committee somewhere will jerk them by the collar and scold them. These women are in the following careers: a bank president, a lawyer, accountant, human resources director, teacher and an administrator. Maybe I'm a trend setter in my area. Maybe I am the first in my group to stand up and say "Yeah, I know I can have it all and I don't want it or I don't even want to try anymore."
"So, do you still like being home?" damn right - pardon my French!!!