September 01, 2010

Changing Focus, but still Frugal

I started this blog almost one year ago and after a year of talking about my lifestyle change to frugal living, I feel that while I can still learn more, I have said as much as I can say about frugality in several posts a week.  I remember when I was trying to come up with a name for my blog I initially wanted to title it "The Path (or Journey) Home" but that was already taken. I knew that coming home and saying goodbye to the work force would require a frugal lifestyle and I had a lot to learn, but I also knew that the main reason for coming home was so that I could finally be a full time homemaker. 

One thing that has really surprised me is that it has taken me a year to get used to being home.  I talked with a friend at church last week and she confirmed that when she retired 3 years ago it took her quite a while to get used to being home and available to finally do the things that she wanted to do. 

I want to change the focus of my blog from primarily a frugal focus to one of a "first time homemaker at the age of 51".  Can that be my new title?  I don't think so.  Besides I like the name of my blog and I will keep it.  I will still post about frugal topics but I want to move my focus to more of homemaking and my learning new homemaking skills. 

The only training I received when I was growing up on keeping a house was that my mother taught me how to bake cookies and I learned to sew in Home Economics. There is more to keeping a home than cookies and sewing. 

In May, 2008 I was surfing the internet and came upon the website The Homemaker Mentor and later The Homemaker Society.  Both sites provide mentoring lessons and encouragement for homemakers.  I subscribed to both websites and started to receive monthly lessons on homemaking.  I would print these off and store them in a binder for later use.  A sample of the lessons I received were on sewing, cooking, canning, storing clothing, care of clothing, food storage, knitting and more.  My plan last year was to start going through those lessons and actually put them into practice in my own home.  Now I am going to do it and I will report on how I am doing.

The Homemaker Mentor is now providing mentoring lessons for girls.  If only I would have received this training when I was younger. 

I am a homemaker, but I'm not very good at it at times.  No matter what our chosen profession, we are never 100% great at our chosen careers 100% of the time.  I'm no different than anyone else.  Women get an education so that they can go out into the world and work in some chosen career.  Why shouldn't those of us who choose to stay home and be homemakers also receive some training? 

So, while I am still on a Path to Frugality, I am also on a path to becoming a better homemaker. 


Laura@NoMoreSpending said...

Hi Martha; I've always worked and so, like you, for me the last 8 months at home have been a learning experience...a fun one though; I never thought I would enjoy it so much.

I've been frugal the last 5 ish years however never really a 'homemaker' I've learnt a lot from Rhondas blog:

Good luck!

Terri@strangeknit said...

Another great blog post. Thanks for sharing. If you had to chose between the two homemakers sites for someone in their late 30s that needs a lot of help with homemaking skills, which would you recommend? I truly struggle with my homemaking skills due to lack of knowledge and severe depression issues. Any insight would be appreciated, Thank you!

terri (at) strangeknit (dot) com

Martha said...


I sent you a quick e-mail but for anyone else, I enjoy both sites, but if money is limited start out with the Homemaker Society and post questions to the forum. I enjoy the lessons from the Homemaker Mentor and the forum on that site that is specifically for questions on the lessons.

Take care.


Martha said...


Thanks for your comment. Sounds like we have something in common. I will check out Rhonda's blog.