October 31, 2011
Thinking Ahead to Stressful Gift Buying
I’ve been thinking about Christmas this week. I always feel that once Halloween gets here, Thanksgiving flies by and then it is Christmas. I can’t really explain it, but I don’t feel like doing Christmas. I’m just not in the mood. I could be in the mood come February though. I am so pathetic.
Do you know what causes stress for me at Christmas time? It’s not the cooking, baking, cleaning or decorating – it’s the gift buying. I am at a loss as to what to get people for Christmas. Homemade gifts aren’t appreciated by many people on my gift list. I get so frustrated. It’s the same thing every year.
What do you buy extended family that have everything they could possibly want yet seem to demand a gift that is personalized to them and very thoughtful? Some years I find the perfect gift but most of the time, I am at a total loss. Does anyone else have this problem?
Then I have to send my mother a gift (notice I said “have to”) when she hasn’t sent me or my husband a gift in probably 20 years. One year she even called me to say that we had forgotten to renew her magazine subscription to a magazine that costs close to $90 per year. We had decided that we couldn’t afford it and had told her so, but a couple of weeks after Christmas she called to say that she hadn’t received her magazine and we must have forgotten. It was her way of manipulating us into caving and giving into her. We didn’t. We had given her something else.
Honestly I just want it to stop. I just want to give gifts to my husband and my children and daughter-in-law. The rest of the family I would love to give a simple gift, a homemade gift would be wonderful. But if I did, there would be a great deal of disappointment when the gift was opened and that prevents me from doing it.
Perhaps I should just start making gifts and that could become my "tradition." It is too late to make afghans or lengthy projects for this year, but I think I will begin this in 2012. No, I definitely will do this. There are many things I can sew or crochet that would make nice gifts and by planning ahead I could buy supplies when they are on sale.
I've been wanting to make my own soap and my own beauty products such as lip balm. Now I think I have my first goal for 2012 -- learn to make these items to give away as gifts. I like it.
I'm curious, if you have made your own gifts, what have you made?