In my former job as a legal assistant I worked a lot of hours. Many times I brought work home and worked on weekends. I worked for a sole practitioner and the only vacation backup was when his daughter or my son were available during the summer to work and give me time off. I loved my job. I enjoyed working in the area of the law so I was willing to make the sacrifice in other areas of my life. I could keep on top of all sorts of projects at work and balance multiple cases at a time. Why then am I having a terrible time gaining control of my messy house? I gave up on the housework in early June and did only what was necessary as I was going to be responsible to close the law firm. My employer was appointed as a judge. There was a lot of work to do and I knew that come August I would be at home.
Now - here we are at the end of September and I have made some strides but am struggling in getting into a routine and schedule at home so that I can get my house in order. One thing that has not happened, I do not miss my former work life. Even though I was a career woman for many years and I loved my job, I also longed to be home full time. Something always stood in the way. Perhaps it was saving up for a house or putting our oldest son through college or maybe it was the fact that I wanted to quit but couldn't imagine telling my boss. Hence it was decided for me.
I did work very hard at the beginning of this month and I cleaned out the basement. It seemed that if I was going to make an attempt to get organized, the basement was the place to start. After all that is where we store a lot of stuff. I got the majority of it organized and when I go to the basement to do laundry I feel a sense of pride.
I have thought and thought and the only way for me to gain control in my housework - cleaning, laundry, cooking, baking, home renovation projects and such is to treat my home as I treated my former job. I have to make a plan, set goals and have a deadline. Most important, I must make a schedule and do what I can to not deviate from it. This is going to be interesting and I am wondering how many other women have worked this path with me - longed to be home, but facing the frustration of not being able to gain control and get things done at home.